I’ve picked up a new book. I’m a chapter into it.
It’s so easy to forget first impressions once they’ve progressed into fully developed opinions. So I’m pausing to share my thoughts on the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
Someone I really respect encouraged me to read this book. She recommended it in response to a discussion we had in which I shared my tendency to take on more commitments than I can handle (due to my woeful inability to say “no”).
My dear friend encouraged me to look past the book’s tagline – “when to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life.” The unfortunate phrase suggests that we want to be the captains of our own lives when in fact we want God to be the Captain. In spite of that, she was hopeful that the book contained content I could learn and grow from.
The first chapter introduced the concept of having “boundaries” in multiple areas of life: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. It started in story mode, narrating one day in the life of a woman with no boundaries – that is, who was unable to say no when people requested or demanded things of her. On the one hand, her problem was so obvious it seemed cheesy or overdone. But then I found myself relating and finding that I do just the same thing.
The chapter ended by listing some questions that the book promises to answer, one of which is, “Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?”
The second chapter of the book is titled, “What Does a Boundary Look Like?”
I’m looking forward to reading the rest of the book with a mind easily impressed by the Lord’s truths and diligent to measure everything against His Word.
- Have you ever read or heard of the book “Boundaries”?
- Do you struggle with when to say yes and how to say know? What biblical advice would you share with someone who struggles?
- Would a book’s tagline put you off reading it? What is the most important factor for you in choosing a book to read?