I’ve established that vulnerability is sanctifying. And by “established”, I mean that’s what I’ve come to believe for myself. I’ve also come to believe that it’s hard. But when is it appropriate to be vulnerable? Are there wrong people? Wrong times? It’s something I’ve wondered over the past months.
I briefly considered in this post that a benefit of vulnerability is the close fellowship that it fosters between members of the Body of Christ. Two people can’t truly be friends if they can’t see each other for the darkness they’re hiding in.
I should clarify.
Perhaps they can be “friends” at a superficial level, but this shouldn’t be mistaken for the profound fellowship experienced when two or more individuals are willing to get vulnerable with each other.
However, I do think the gifts of vulnerability and fellowship can be abused.
Recently, I finished reading Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris. Amid the sweet testimonies of God-honoring romances was a story with a tragic ending. A young man and woman “in love” shared with each other very personal parts of their testimony on their first date. This lead them to feel like they were closer than they really were. The relationship ended and today the young lady “deeply regrets that she shared so much of her heart with Matt.”
I think – and now this is getting into personal opinion – that there are times when it is not wise to share certain personal areas of our lives with certain people.
True; only God knows which relationships will end and with whom we might possibly regret sharing something with someone, whether they be a guy or a girl. If we knew we would part ways with a particular person, we might be more careful to guard what we share.
We can’t know the future of our friendships. But I have a hunch. I think the Holy Spirit is ready to give us guidance on the matter if we would be willing to ask for the discernment.
I’ve referred in the past to a blog post that has spoken volumes to me: Don’t Forget to Keep Your Sacred by Isabelle from Seeing Everything Else. It made me think that there are times to refrain from sharing something to the world via blog post or status update. Perhaps there are “things” that ought not to be shared, even in personal one-on-one settings.
Otherwise, we risk treating as commonplace that which is precious:
Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to the pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
I propose that vulnerability is a pearl and ought to be treated accordingly.
Talk with me?
- Do you think Jesus is referring to vulnerability in the above verse? Do you think he meant something different?
- What are some types of people who might not receive vulnerability well? What could Jesus mean that they might trample them under their feet and turn and tear us to pieces?
- Do you have any personal experiences of seeing this played out in your life (or is it too personal a question for you to answer here? 😉 )