My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Are you ready for “romance with purpose”?
If you’re fed up with self-centered relationships that end in disillusionment, it’s time to rethink romance. Finding the loving, committed relationship you want shouldn’t mean throwing away your hopes, your integrity, or your heart.
In Boy Meets Girl, Joshua Harris —the guy who kissed dating goodbye—makes the case for courtship. As old-fashioned as it might sound, courtship is what modern day relationships desperately need. Think of it as romance chaperoned by wisdom, cared for by community, and directed by God’s Word.
Filled with inspiring stories from men and women who have rediscovered courtship, Boy Meets Girl is honest, romantic, and refreshingly biblical. Keep God at the center of your relationship as you discover how to:
• Set a clear course for your romance
• Get closer without compromise
• Find support in a caring community
• Deal with past sexual sin
• Make the right decisions about your future
New! Courtship Conversations
Eight ideas for great dates that will help grow and guide your relationship.
Reviewing a book is a daunting task when you look back on the journey and feel like it was so full! What I’m about to say is not at all comprehensive. Nevertheless –
4/5 stars for Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris. According to the Goodreads star system, that means “I really liked it.” It’s a self-help book about courtship that – in its own words – is to “celebrate God’s way in romance.” Lest that description give you the idea that it’s nothing but pages of praise for courtship, I would add that it contains theology points as well as suggestions for practical approaches to romance within courtship.
I thought that Boy Meets Girl was compelling enough. I mean, I tend to be drawn in far more readily by fiction than non-fiction. But as far as its kind goes, it was quite good. Author Joshua Harris is a skilled storyteller and knows how to sprinkle them effectively between doses of doctrine. I found myself looking forward to the sweet, inspiring, and diverse testimonies of couples who chose to court. The theological parts were no burden to read, either. They were easy to understand and well-presented.
In the way of spiritual value, Boy Meets Girl seemed to me… it seemed… argh! I’m finding it very hard to compose a straightforward answer. On the one hand, it doesn’t leave the clear afterglow of contentment in Christ that other Christian theology/self-help books have left me with. But there were definitely times where it stopped me in my tracks and caused me to consider something in a new light. Chapter ten was great in that regard, and perhaps the most memorable chapter for me. But to jump back to the first hand, I felt like there were some times that the importance of marriage competed with the importance of the gospel. However, I did like this book and I’m going to give it the benefit of the doubt – 2/2 for spiritual value.
I want to note; in one negative review I read, the reader was upset about the author’s stance on courtship and romance, saying that it’s not reasonable or doable for everyone and that the book is a list of rules. On the first point, I would agree; the same approach to romance is not reasonable or doable for everyone. However, I don’t count this against the book because the author himself acknowledges this from the very beginning and encourages us to view the situation as we would an art class with one teacher and one assignment, yet in which each student is given different tools to complete the assignment. In the same way, Mr. Harris said that he was not saying we should follow the same guidelines that he did during his courtship, but that we need to develop our own convictions and guidelines from Scripture. I really appreciated that note of his.
In summary, I found Boy Meets Girl to be considerably compelling and to offer good value to my spiritual well-being. I would recommend it to readers who are both older (late teens +) and more mature (regardless of whether or not they’re currently courting) and who are interested in biblically exploring pre-marital romance.
A NOTE ON CONTENT
- Violence: I recall no violence.
- Romance: Given that the whole book is about romance, readers who are especially sensitive to such content should wary and sensible. Most of the approach to romance is from an objective point-of-view, but chapter nine did get steamy for me as it talked about lust and sex with honest detail.
- Magic: There is no magic.
- Language: I recall no harsh language.
Have you ever read Boy Meets Girl? Would you read it? What are your convictions surrounding romance? Marriage? Singleness?
I’ve also read and reviewed I Kissed Dating Goodbye, which is kind of the unofficial prequel to Boy Meets Girl.