Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye

I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Relationships and Romance
I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

My decision to read ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’ by Joshua Harris was based on a friend’s recommendation. It did not disappoint.

This nonfiction book for young adult singles introduces a new attitude towards opposite-sex relationships. It counters the idea that dating was ever the only approach to romance and directs readers towards God’s perfect design.

Joshua Harris knows how to make good use of stories within a non-fiction piece of literature. The pages of his book are filled with such stories from his own life (both figurative and literal) that help us understand the theory. Besides tales and theory, ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’ is decked with applicable guidelines; steps that readers can take, and changes that they can easily put into practice in their own lives. This book is easy to read and understand.

The author references and quotes Bible verses all throughout ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’ as the basis for the attitudes and principles that he conveys. Most of the time, he references single verses, leaving it to the reader to look up and read the surrounding verses for context. Other times, he leads readers through a study of a particular passage or story (the two that come to my mind, now, are the stories of David and Bathsheba, and of Isaac and Rebekah). There was a scattering of small ideas that I didn’t agree with wholeheartedly, but none were a matter of salvation. This book brings glory to God and to his design for romance.

I give a full five stars to ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’. I recommend it to young individuals as young as twelve or thirteen who genuinely want to honor God with their love life from now on. I already own a copy of the sequel and look forward to reading it.

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8 thoughts on “Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye

    1. Hi Steve. Thanks for the comment. 🙂

      I think it’s important for each of us to look at any issue from multiple angles and weigh it up according to how God works in our hearts. Each person is on a different journey in life. It seems that God works in different people’s hearts concerning different issues at different seasons in their life. If any teens or young adults read this book review who are considering whether they should “kiss dating goodbye”, I hope they notice your comment, too, and do their homework.

      Concerning Joshua Harris, eek. That’s quite the scary thought to have written something that’s impacted many readers’ lives… and then to question it years later.

      Have a lovely day.


      1. Judy

        It sounds like you are basically saying that there is no one size fits all that depending on where you are different things may or may not apply? If so, I think we are basically saying the same thing.


      2. Sort of. I mean, I believe that truth is objective; that it doesn’t change from one person to the next. But God’s plan for individuals’ lives is different for each person; applying the same truth in different ways. For example, He might have a specific future-spouse for one person, but to another person He might give the freedom to choose – by His sovereignty and for His glory.


      3. I think we are basically saying the same thing.

        One example is a lot of those that teach courtship/kissing dating goodbye push for a short time of partnering before a couple becomes married. I have known a number of people that met like in middle school but didn’t get married till they were in their 20’s. and had long marriages. It just shows that there isn’t one way to do something and one has to follow God’s lead.


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